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Links of the Week – April 17, 2015

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* 18 Puppies On Their Way To Their New Homes!

* The Great Garden Gnome Massacre

* Long Exposure Light Photos – (Gorgeous!)

* Doctors To University: Fire That ‘Quack’ Dr. Oz

* Defeating Polio: The Disease That Paralyzed America

* Anne Lamott Shares All That She Knows: ‘Everyone Is Screwed Up, Broken, Clingy And Scared’

* MLB Teams Boost Mental Health Support Systems

* Love Is Not Supposed To Hurt… Then Why?

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* New Study Says Tylenol Numbs Emotions – (Rushes to weekly grocery list…)

* 7 Things To Do When Your Kid Points Out Someone’s Differences – (Great stuff!)

* Hidden Cameras Reveal Airport Workers Stealing From Luggage – (Why are people so sorry?)

* Yogi Berra, Ready For The Game!

* Mindfulness Meditation Can Help Relieve Anxiety And Depression

* How To Trust Again

* What Self-Love Means: 20+ Ways To Be Good To Yourself

* Anne Lamott – Becoming The Person You’re Supposed To Be: Where To Start

* How To Get To Know Yourself In 5 Fool-Proof Steps

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* Baddest Mother Ever: Ten Signs I’ve Found The Right Biscuit Joint – (Link of the week!)

* A Boy and Her Dog: Owning My Shame – (I feel so much of this.)

* Fisticuffs And Shenanigans: Pride, You Made Me Proud

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“You can only go halfway into the darkest forest; then you’re coming out the other side.”

— Chinese proverb
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Links of the Week – April 10, 2015

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Bike lane – Roberto Clemente Bridge – Pittsburgh

* Study: People Who Love Grilled Cheese Have More Sex, Are More Charitable

* This Dog Was Adopted After Five Years Of Waiting When His Photo Went Crazy On Facebook

* Longtime Couple Found That Clothes Didn’t Make The Man

* Gay Boy Scout Leader Hired In New York: “We said yes to him irrespective of his sexual orientation”

* White House Says It Supports Efforts To Ban Gay Conversion Therapy

* Gay Conversion Therapists Claim Most Patients Fully Straight By The Time They Commit Suicide

* PostSecret: Saved

* PostSecret: Pray

* PostSecret: Unbroken

* Now Who’s The Moral Majority?

* Where Did Heaven Come From?

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How I feel this week. Thanks, pollen!

* If Single People Honestly Updated Their Facebook

* Everybody Hit Somebody – (A season with the Carolina Phoenix women’s football team)

* Houston Astros Sweater – (Gorgeous!)

* Philadelphia Phillies 1915-1919 Cap – (This will be mine. Oh yes!)

* John Hart May Never Make A Better Trade – (See ya’, Melvin!)

* Reeses Chocolate Peanut Butter Tart

* FLOTUS Michelle Obama Says Malia And Sasha Are Not Influential And I Love It

* We Need Star Trek Back On TV

* Shout Out To T’Pring’s Hairdo

* When My Friend Is Obsessing Over Her Crush Even Though He Clearly Doesn’t Like Her

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* Love And Anxiety

* Seven Big Signs You May Be Too Clingy

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“I’ve come to realize that what I always thought was my feeling of falling in love, feels very much like my feeling of anxiety.”

– Deanna Dennis


“[Y]our life is yours and no one else’s.”

http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-18184/8-life-changing-lessons-i-learned-from-seeing-a-therapist-in-my-20s.html

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Links of the Week – April 3, 2015

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* Shatner Pays Tribute To Nimoy

* Takei Calls For Boycott

* Astros Unveil The Eat-On-The-Go Chicken And Waffle Cone

* We Need A Middle Class President

* 5 Charts That Show How The Middle Class Is Disappearing

* Can We Guess What Your Reading Habits Say About Your Love Life? – (Mine was FRIGHTENINGLY correct.)
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* How Old Do You Actually Act? – (I got 5-years-old. *sigh*)

* Angry Little Garden Gnome

* What My Zodiac Sign Says About Me – (Again, correct.)

* “I Thought I Was Bipolar” Shirt – (Need)

* PostSecret: Jazz Hands

* PostSecret: I Feel Like A Hostage

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* Monkey Meets Puppies For The First Time, Wants To Snuggle Them As Badly As Anyone Else – (Ow! My heart just exploded!)

* Tim Cook: Pro-Discrimination ‘Religious Freedom’ Laws Are Dangerous

* Moist Chocolate Cupcakes with Ganache Filling – (Proof that God loves us. He’d love me more if he’d magic these to my house.)

* The Problem With Cars And Self-Absorption

* The Spirit Of Atlanta: A Quest For Context Of 1920’s Atlanta – (Awesome old pictures of the city!)

* The Scandal Of A Crucified God (A Good Friday Reflection)

* The Importance Of Doubt (A Holy Saturday Reflection)

* When The Right To Discriminate Collides With The Rites Of Holy Week

* The Right’s Made Up God: How Bigots Created A White Supremacist Jesus

* How ‘One Nation’ Didn’t Become ‘Under God’ Until The 50s Religious Revival – (My favorite read of the week!)

* You Don’t Have To Go To Work On Opening Day Because The Brewers Wrote You An Excuse Note

* Watch Guys Attempt To Explain How Periods Work – (Hysterical. And a little sad. 🙂 )

* What The Hell Is That Tribble Doing?

* Rape Suspect Had Burns At Court Appearance – (I would get on a plane right now, given the opportunity, and go to Ohio and beat this fucker to death with my double wall Miken. PLEASE let me do it!)

* Transgender Elders Show Us The Meaning Of Survival

* ‘Child Abuse’ For A Girl To Dress Like A Boy? – (Sigh…)

* Man Thinking About Just Packing Up And Making Exact Same Mistakes Someplace Far Away

* What To Do When You Hate Yourself

* Me On My Future Plans

* How I’m Going To End Up

* Sex Doesn’t Sell…

* It’s All About Falling In Love With Yourself…

* The Girl Who Struck Out Babe Ruth And Lou Gehrig

* Girls Baseball Team Wins Championship At Boys’ Tournament – (Not just a little local tournament, a USSSA NATIONAL tournament!)

* Menswear Dog: The Most Stylish Dog In The World – (THIS! Blog of the Week!!!)

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“And when she is done, she will head for town, center, she will board the first bus she sees. Find a seat by a window, ride to the end of town.

And then? She stops. She does not know. She has not thought this part through. But it occurs to her then she can just keep on riding. It is possible, yes. She will just stay on the bus and ride. To some other place, some other town. She will look for it out all the windows. And when she sees it at last, she will know.”

Some Other Town, Elizabeth Collison


“Death will get us all. Moreover, astrophysicists tell us, even the earth and the solar system will one day be destroyed as the sun explodes in its dying gasp. On a more finite level, life is filled with threats to our existence: accidents, disease, violence, unemployment, poverty. Life easily looks threatening.

If we do see reality this way, how will we respond to life? In a word, defensively. We will seek to build systems of security and self-protection to fend off the hostile powers as long as possible.”

The Heart of Christianity, Marcus J. Borg


“It’s less embarrassing for people to think I look stupid when I intentionally look like a boy, than for them to think I look stupid when I’m trying my best to actually look like a woman.”

Deanna Dennis


“I am also learning how to feel. I’m learning that it can be safe to experience emotions. Running away – literally and figuratively – only temporarily removed me from the pain I was feeling. In order to exercise in a healthy way, I had to learn how to feel without searching for a way to self-destruct. It’s been a massive struggle to learn to accept myself. I’ve had to work to believe that I am OK exactly the way that I am, that nothing needs to be ‘beaten’ out of me.”

– Kenzi Rome, http://twloha.com/blog/making-my-workouts-work-me


“[L]ook more closely at the hard things in life: They’re trying to tell you something if you’ll listen.”

Tomboy, Liz Prince

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Links of the Week – March 27, 2015

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* A Beautiful Sunrise Over A Bacon Landscape

* Even In Defeat, Georgia State Was A Winner

* Pope Francis Receives Pizza Delivery – To Pope Mobile

* PostSecret: What Might Have Been

* Man Has Carefully Calculated Timeline For Revealing Negative Personality Traits To New Girlfriend

* Rainy Day Street Art – (I love this so much!)

* Neustetter’s ‘Light Experiences’ Illuminate Night – (So beautiful!!!)

* Emory’s Women’s Swim And Dive Wins NCAA Div-III National Championship – (Six in a row!)

* What Does It Mean To Wear Heels?

* Why Men Are Smarter Than Women – (Provocative, but I agree!)

* NASA’s Opportunity Rover Celebrates Mars Marathon Milestone

* “Raising Ryland”: Parenting A Young Transgender Child – (A wonderful short film from CNN Films…)

* The Transgender Life: What To Know, Say, And Understand

* Capitol Police To Congress: No More Drunken 4th of July Parties – (But our congresspeople CAN’T find the time to read legislation before they vote on it. Wankers.)

* Famous Atheists And Their Beliefs

* Ricky Gervais: Why I’m An Atheist

* Mo’ne Davis Asks College To Give Baseball Player Second Shot – (I want to give him a second shot – in the head. What in the world makes a college-aged man think it’s OK to call an 11-year-old girl (or any female) a slut? Men? What is your major malfunction with women?)

* 10 Stereotypes To Stop Spreading About Women

* Paw Prints On Your Food – (Dawwwwwww!)

* When You Finally Find Out Who’s A Good Boy – ( ❤ ❤ ❤ )

* Bullshit Bill With Bullshit Title Bullshitted About By Bullshitters

* Local Idiot Looking For St. Patrick’s Day Bar That Isn’t “Full Of Idiots” – (Perfect.)

* Microsoft CEO Announces He Can Be Mostly Gay By Q2 2015

* Becoming A Better Man: The Single Greatest Moment Of My Life – (Blog post of the week!
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* The Greatest Lenten Pun EVAH!

* Cadbury Creme Egg Season Is Here Again At Last

* Insult To Injury: America’s Vanishing Worker Protections – (This is what happens when people stop supporting unions. I promise you, this will continue to get worse.)

* 4 Scientifically Proven Ways To Be A Better Spouse

* Lemond – Missing-Ear Kitty Becomes A Furkid – (Adopt a pet today! They love you so much!)

* Alcoholics Anonymous, Mr. Spock And the Lighthouse

* Spaghetti Toes: If Love Was Measured In Weight… – ( ❤ ❤ ❤ )

* Pineapple Coconut Bars

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“Lisa, I apologize to you, I was wrong, I take it all back. Always be yourself. If you want to be sad, honey, be sad. We’ll ride it out with you. And when you get finished feeling sad, we’ll still be there. From now on, let me do the smiling for both of us.”

– Marge, “The Simpsons,” Moaning Lisa

“Which is a funny thing about boyfriends, I’ve noticed. they too often don’t know about you and jump to unwarranted conclusions. That for instance it was love, a mate you were after, when you really just needed someone to talk to.”

– Elizabeth Collison, Some Other Town

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Straight Genderqueer Woman

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I very specifically titled this blog “Straight Genderqueer Woman” because when I try to find people who might be like me, Google only comes up with this stuff. But I KNOW I can’t be alone. I am a unique, precious, ass-kicking flower. But it can’t be because I’m the only straight, genderqueer, woman in the world.  (Born female sexed. Does this make me cis-gendered genderqueer? So confusing!) So I’m floating this out there to let other straight women out there who are challenging gender roles know they’re not alone.

I’m actually uncomfortable sometimes describing myself as “genderqueer.” I don’t want to co-opt a descriptor that’s not accurate and offend somebody. I really feel like it’s society’s expectations of how I should look and behave as a woman to be what is queer. That’s really the challenge I wrestle with the most in my head.

I struggle with the dichotomy between how I want to look and act, and how I think I have to look and act to attract men. So often this makes me think I’m doing something wrong, or am a broken woman or not a good enough woman.

But on the genderqueer side, I do remember feeling for a long time earlier in my life that I wasn’t a man or a woman. I didn’t even know that was a THING people could feel. It didn’t disturb me. It was just who I was.

I don’t feel that as greatly now, but I will tell you that when I look at women who are dressed very femininely, in short skirts and high heels, I don’t feel like I have anything in common with them gender-wise. (I also find myself thinking they’re stupid for dressing that way and I get angry at them. But it’s OK. I’m sure that’s something my therapist and I will get into….)

So whatever labels you paste on me, (’cause lawd knows I struggle to use the politically correct, culturally sensitive ones) just know that I’m me. I’m Deanna. And I’m trying to feel like that’s OK.

And know, that no matter what the internet says, if you are a woman who wants to look androgynous or like “a guy” and you’re into men, you’re OK too. And you’re not alone.

And guys, if you’re into this kind of thing, you’re single, you have a job, you’re kind, and you shower regularly, hit me up!

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Also, my “Gender Roles Are Dead” sweatshirt is available from FLAVNT!

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Links of the Week – March 20, 2015

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* The End Of White Christian America Is Nigh: Why The Country’s Youth Are Abandoning Religious Conservatism

* Justice System to 13-Year-Old Girl: It’s Not Rape Because You Have Curves – (Women, if you’re not enraged yet, you’re not paying attention.)

* Cops On An 11-Year-Old Who Says She Was Raped: “Child’s Promiscuous Behavior Caused This”

* Pope Francis’s Pledge Of Zero Tolerance For Child Abusers Being Tested In Chile

* Alpha Males And Sexual Abuse Of Women

* Understanding Abusers: There Is No Stereotype For Offenders

* “I Am Called A Whore”: Ashley Judd Unloads On The Internet’s Grossest Trolls

* “Son Of A Bitch!” Jon Stewart Hammers “Disingenuous” GOP And “Dumb-Ass” Dems Over Anti-Sex Trafficking Fiasco – (As he should. Fuckers.)

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* National Organization Of Women – (Stand up for women! God doesn’t seem to be helping.)

* Put A Woman On The $20!

* Behold The Unexpected Awesomeness Of The Taco Doughnut

* Racist Oklahoma Video A Sign Of Regression In Race Relations In America

* Millennials Are More Racist Than They Think

* PostSecret: If Jesus Were Here – (He does…)

* PostSecret: Babar

* Find A Death: The Death Of Jeanine Deckers: The Singing Nun – (“It took fourteen years for Jeannine to give up the ‘friend’ thing and sip from the furry cup and join the Order of the Practical Shoes.” And then I died! 😀 )

* Find A Death: The Death of Greg Plitt – (Leg day! 😀 )

* For When You Think That No One Will Ever Love You

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* Disenchanted With Losing, Andy Landers Calls It Quits After 36 Years Of Coaching The Lady Dogs – (A pioneer in women’s basketball, and the only Lady Dog coach I’ve ever known.)

* Psalm 37: How To Receive The Desires Of Your Heart – (As long as God decides it’s OK. And he doesn’t have anything better to do. And he really exists. Now does that really sound like granting the desires of MY heart? No. It does not.)

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* A Boy And Her Dog: Mail Is Not A Gender

* A Boy And Her Dog: Topless In The Locker Room

* A Womanonymous: Shock

* A Womanonymous: Wild Offering – (Post of the Week)

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* Black Bear Lodge Adventure Therapy – (I wonder how much this costs…)

* Workplace Suicide Rates Rise Sharply

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* 21 Harsh Truths No One Tells Teens

* 5 Reasons To Suspect That Jesus Never Existed

* Catcher David Ross’ Approach To Game Anything But Routine – (Oh, Rossy! My favorite!)

* Contributions Of David Ross Go Beyond The Numbers

* Joe Maddon Is Binge-Watching ‘The Office’ At Cubs’ Spring Training – (Oh, Joe! My favorite!)

* Largest Group Of U.S. Presbyterian Churches Allows Same-Sex Marriages – (OK, Methodists. We’re starting to look like backward-ass snake handlers now! Left behind, indeed!)

* From Patrick Stewart’s Birthday Party – (Can I get these guys to come to my birthday party?!?)

* When People Ask Me About My Job

* My Weekend Plans

* For The Bodybuilder/Weightlifter/Harry Potter Fan In Your Life

* Sheetcake Arrives At Banquet Saying “Stewardshit” – (Also, DAVID TENNANT!)

* Genderqueer Fashion

* Fuck Yeah, Androgyny!

* Fake Self-Help Books – (!!!)

* “Life’s Lil Pleasures” Mini Book – (The. BEST! ❤ ❤ ❤ )

* Nine Handy Curses Appropriate For Modern Life – (“May your coffee always be decaf.”)

* Creekside Cabin: Pet Friendly Cabin On The Creek – (It may be time to plan a vacation week…)

* You Can Now Anonymously Send A “Bag Of Dicks” To Your Enemies (Or Your Friends?)

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* Do Cats Dream?

* Awesomely Luvvie: “Pastor” Creflo Dollar Is Trying To Raise $65 Millon For A Plane

* Awesomely Luvvie: Dear Fellow Christians, About This Christ Crutch We Use To Justify Foolery…

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“Humans will always place our trust in things that will fail us. We will always insist on giving pieces of our heart to things that simply cannot love us back.”

– Nadia Bolz-Weber, “A Sermon On Addiction…”

“How come if you don’t give up on the person you love, the Hallmark Channel calls that ‘romance;” but on the Lifetime Network, if you don’t give up on the person you love, they call it ‘stalking?”’

Deanna Dennis

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Happy St. Patrick’s Day, Grandma…

Things change as you get older.

St. Patrick’s Day started out looking like this…
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After college it was like this for a few years…

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Then during my 10-year marriage, it was always like this…

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After I got divorced, I had to prove I was OK, so for a few years it looked like this…

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But then that turned into staying home on St. Patrick’s day so I didn’t have to drink with amateurs. (You only drank six? How cute!)

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And then somehow, St. Patrick’s Day starting looking like this…

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*Check out that new pill cutter and pill case! Good times.*

How the fuck did this happen? I’m too young to be this old!