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Links of the Week – January 16, 2015

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* 7 Reasons To “Queer” 2015

* 12 Things Men Are Forgetting About Being Men

* PostSecret: One Small Gesture Of Kindness

* 22 People Who Are Not Ready To Be A Proper Adult Yet

* 24 People Doing The Whole Jesus Thing Wrong

* And The Moral Of The Story Is… Kids Don’t Always Understand The Moral

* Big Problem: Study Shows That 1/3rd Of Male Students Would Rape A Woman

* Handmade Personalized Plush Dolls – (Wonderful!!!)

* Craig Ferguson Was My Sober Shining Light: How The ‘Late, Late Show’ Host Made Me Want To Stop Drinking

* Donating A Single Rollerblade Is Not Going To Help Disaster Victims – (…or the needy)

* Double Chocolate Chip Cookies – (WOOT! PRAISE BREAK!)

* ESPN Mean Tweets

* Church In Lakewood Stops Woman’s Funeral Because She Was Gay – (#notmyjesus)

* Fat Guy Receiving Touchdown + Bowling Celebration + Fat Guy Cartwheel = YES! YES! YES! – (Mercer U. Football and my Link of the Week!)

* Homeless Kitten Born Without Eyelids Gets A Family – (Dawwwwwww!)

* Jake Tapper: I’m Ashamed By U.S. Leaders’ Absence In Paris – (Nail head, meet hammer.)

* No More Classical Music On WABE

* “I Was Dropped…” T-Shirt – (Feel free to order and ship to me!)

* Milo, Transgender Teen, Shares Transition Through Birthday Pancake Photos

* Milwaukee Brewers Roll Out “Timeless Tickets” – (I would totally get one of these for the Braves – if they weren’t moving out of Atlanta.)

* Raising My Rainbow: Mom, What If I Date A Transgender Person? – (Blog post of the week!)

* Stunning Set Of Vintage Inspired NASA Posters

* Recreating The Awkwardness: What About Grandma? – (This is really sweet!)

* Reverend Christopher Edward Carlton Funeral Service – (Why would I link to the video of a funeral service? This requires some explanation. Rev. Carlton was a much loved minister and counselor in our UMC Conference. He fought an ongoing battle with bipolar disorder and depression. A few weeks ago, the darkness overwhelmed him and he committed suicide. Watching this video brought me to tears. He was obviously an amazing man who had an extraordinary influence on thousands of lives. But his struggle…. Oh how I feel his struggle. The ministers who spoke here handle it so deftly, and so humanely and with so much true emotion at the loss of their friend. I guess I share this because I could’ve been Christopher. I get Christopher. I wish there were something I could’ve done to help Christopher. Despite the fact that I didn’t even know him, even in death he has ministered to me.)

* Sad Chipper Jones Live-Tweets The CFB Championship With Selfies – (Teh AWESOMESAUCE!)

* Schools Arming Students With Canned Goods – (Alabama. Say no more…)

* Schwings Shoe Wings – (MUST HAVE!)

* “Meet The Family” Mutant Family Portraits

* Glow In The Dark Murals – ❤ ❤ ❤ (My house needs these!!!)

* Whose Aunty Is This With The Stuggle Feet In White Kitten Heels? – (And then I fell out!)

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“During that time, the Brothers found out that I didn’t drink – never had – and they forced alcohol on me…. It took only a few swigs to loosen me, like my body was remembering something, an echo, or awakening to something, a birthright…. I now better understood how my father succumbed to it. It was a respite from worry, a rotgut way out, time deliriously spent, time unconcerned with the true costs to be paid later. I better understood the little lies liquor told, lifting spirits and drowning sorrows while withholding the whole truth – that, in the end, it is the spirit in peril of drowning. Sorrows have gills.”

– Charles Blow, “Fire In My Bones”

“…I’d come to understand that I sometimes confused the need for attention with a desire for sex. For much of my life I would crave attention with a carnal intensity. From anyone. From everyone. That feeling of being chosen…,to cover the emptiness I felt or to fill in the hole, the desired culmination being not so much physical intimacy as emotional affirmation. The boy who had once felt invisible would forever ache simply to be seen.”

– Charles Blow, “Fire In My Bones”

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Links of the Week – December 26, 2014

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* Boston Red Sox BamVino Bottle Holder

* Douglasville’s Elana Meyers Taylor Wins In Calgary

* Growing Up Gender-Nonconforming Amid Scolding, Awkward Silences

* NORAD’s Santa Tracker Began With A Typo And A Good Sport

* 23 Of The Cutest Things That Have Ever Happened On Tumblr

* Bobsled History: Elana Meyers Taylor To Compete In Four-Man Event – (First women to compete in this event – EVER!)

* A List Of Pope Francis’ 15 “Ailments Of The Curia” – (Go on with your bad self, Pope!)

* Religion’s Smart People Problem: The Shaky Intellectual Foundations Of Absolute Faith – (I wrestle mightily with this…)

* Why So Many Rich Americans Think They’re Middle-Class

* Patrick Stewart And Jonathan Frakes Can’t Hold It Together

* Star Trek Book Of Opposites – (Why didn’t I get this for Christmas???)

* Stay Single And Proud This Holiday Season – (THIS! 😀 )

* What’s Gender Got To Do With It: Is Recovery Different For Women? – (I’ve been debating this with some evangelists recently. This gets it right.)

* C Is For This Awesome Cookie Monster Christmas – (You gotta see this!)

* Katie Hnida’s Historic Football Story Not A Fairy Tale

* Seasonal Depression Kicks In Just In Time To Numb Woman Before Holiday With Family – (Perfect! 😀 )

* Avoiding Family Conflict During The Holiday Season – (The Onion nails it!)

* How To Navigate The Holidays Alone – (Aaaaaand The Onion writes my life…)

* Space Cat Shower Curtain

* Lumpy Space Princess Shower Curtain

* Jesus Died For Your Sims T-Shirt – (Amazing!)

* Magic Middles Chocolate-Filled Cookie Recipe

* Pierzynski At Least A Colorful Braves Addition – (Oh, great…)

* Gingerbread Enterprise – (For Mason…)

* Dr. Who Paper Snowflake Patterns – (Allons y!)

* The Department Of Unexpected Interspecies Friendship – ❤ ❤ ❤

* Obama Breaks Cardinal Presidential Rule By Donning Tiara

* Social Justice Kittens

* Baddest Mother Ever: Fartbuster’s Worst Fear – (Blog Post of the Week)

Links of the Week – December 12, 2014

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* Light Painting

* Motion Exposure

* Kids’ Drawings Speak Volumes About Home

* Old And Overmedicated: The Real Drug Problem In Nursing Homes

* Mall Santa Poses For Best Santa Photo Ever

* Right Whales Begin Migration To Georgia, Florida

* NASA Takes One Small Step Back Into Space: But Is Orion Really Taking Us In The Right Direction?

* Santa, Don’t Pigeonhole My Kid

* Behind The Picture: The Photo That Changed The Face Of AIDS

* When Someone Shows You Who They Are, Believe Them

* 5 Tips To Stop Dating ‘Fixer-Upper’ Guys

* SpaceX Will Try To Land Rocket On Floating Ocean Platform Next Week – (AWESOMESAUCE!)

* trekbedtimestories: This Is A Thing You Can Buy

* All Kirked Up And No Place To Go – (“There’s a man out there!”)

* A Man Selling His Koala Makes The Best Craigslist Post Ever

* Hudson’s Hickory House, Douglasville – (Tastes like home. We’ve eaten there so much they sent flowers to Daddy’s funeral.)

* No Love For Leather: Nike’s Innovative Vapor 360 Baseball Glove Is Here

* Dick Allen May Not Be In The Hall Of Fame, But Here Are Six Reasons He’s In The Cut4 o’ Fame

* The Driver Behind Public Transportation’s Transformation In Atlanta

* What Will It Take To Run A 2-Hour Marathon – (Fantastic article!)

* Man’s Family Rises To Record High Fourth Priority

* Heart Of Winter Frozen Forest Glow In The Dark Necklace – ❤ ❤ ❤

* Ken Weatherwax, Pugsley On ‘The Addams Family,’ dies at 59

* Rape Rage Driving Feminism’s Third Wave

* North Pole Reindeer Baseball Cards – (Click through on the Baseball Reference link on the bottom of the cards. Donner played in the minors for Rankinbas!)

* Nerdy Nativity Scene

* Pope Rummaging Through Vatican Basement For Plastic Nativity Scene Figures – (The. BEST! 😀 )

* Last Christmas I Swallowed A Ball Of Yarn…

* Lumpy Space Princess Sweatshirt – (Oh my glob!)

* Lumpy Space Princess Plushie – (Dawwwwwwww!)

* Chastity Sweater – (I don’t think this guy has anything to worry about.)

* Full Moonrise Hike At Stone Mountain January 4th – (This should be amazing!)

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“Cigarette”

Fred Jones was worn down
from caring for his often
screaming and crying wife
burning the day but
He couldn’t sleep at night for fear that she
In a stupor from the drugs that didn’t
ease the pain would set the house ablaze
with a cigarette.

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Links of the Week – December 5, 2014

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* For These Millennials, Gender Norms Have Gone Out Of Style

* Man Admits To Being Spider-Man In Touching Obituary – (LOVE this!)

* Sprinkle Bakes: Baklava Cheesecake – (Lawd Jesus! This calls for another…)

TAMBOURINE PRAISE BREAK!!!

* How I Learned To Love The Holidays

* Will Riker – Thug Life!

* NASA Prepares To Test New Spacecraft

* It’s A Sad Day: Clip Art Is Dead

* Woman Launches Into 4-Minute Self-Deprecating Preamble Before Speaking Mind

* No One Should Have The Right To Die Before God Is Done Toying With Them

* Temple University Receives Anonymous Donation To Build Center For Discrediting Rape Allegations

* Bill Cosby Offers To Sit Down With Us And Explain The Allegations Against Him Over A Glass Of Wine

* Major League Baseball Umpire Dale Scott Reveals He Is Gay

* Panaluu Beach – Rogellio Bernal Andreo – Deep Sky Colors – (Awesome – in the true sense of the word.)

* Orion Poised For First Trip To Space – (A really good overview of the mission)

* What Should We Call Me: When Everyone Around Me Is Excelling In Their Careers, And I’m Just Like…

* 5 Ways To Keep Her Happy – (Yes, yes, yes! Surprise me!)

* Handwriting/Signature Bracelets – (Cool!)

* 35 Pictures That Prove The World Isn’t Such A Bad Place – (Sniff!)

* A Quest For The Unattainable Unification of Knowledge – (Whoa…)
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* 5 Overlooked Qualities Of A Great Romantic Partner

* The Sellers Of “Cards Against Humanity” Sold Actual Bull Poop To Customers On Black Friday

* Kennesaw Mosque Deemed Too Close To Ground Zero

* From UVA To Cosby, The Rape Denial Playbook That Won’t Go Away – (THIS!!! Preach, sister!)

* 10 Ways A Good Woman Will Make You A Better Man

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“I’m going to take responsibility for all my pain looking beautiful and all I’ve made out of my strife.”
– Lady Gaga

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Molestation: The Questions That Linger

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Peeling back one layer and healing it exposes the next. As we go deeper, a girl may say, ‘You know, I’ve never told anyone about this because I was too embarrassed (or because it didn’t seem important… she was afraid… she didn’t think anyone would believe her… or she thought it was her fault). But I think you should know.’

If these traumas are mentioned at all early on in counseling, it’s typically in conjunction with, ‘But that was years ago and I’m over it now.’ The hidden message behind this tough talk is often, ‘ I have spent a lot of energy and time trying to numb myself from feelings and to forget anything associated with this painful event. I would rather not talk about it. I choose to ignore these painful emotions rather than confront them, because I’m fairly certain I wouldn’t survive those overwhelming feelings.'”

The White Umbrella, Mary Frances Bowley, pp. 84-85

I still ask myself…

 – Why didn’t anybody in my family believe his previous accusers and keep it from happening to me?

 – Am I making it a bigger deal than I really should?

 – Why did it never occur to me to tell?

 – If I had told would it have protected his other victims?

 – What kind of monster would DO these things to children year after year?

 – I know there are things about the molestation I don’t remember. What are they? What if they’re horrific?

 – Why didn’t I stop him?

 – Is this the cause of so many of my insecurities and self-doubt and self-loathing, or do I just use it as an excuse to feel sorry for myself?

 – Is it the reason I have so many problems in relationships, or do I just use it as an excuse to cover up my shortcomings? 

 – Why do I still get so anxious – heart pounding, short of breath – when I think about it?

 – What would the resolution to this even be or look like in my life?

 – Do I have to forgive?

 – Do I have to stop being angry?

Isn’t it easier, less painful and less self-destructive to just keep repressing it and numbing it, to not pick at that scab?