Links of the Week – April 17, 2015
* 18 Puppies On Their Way To Their New Homes!
* The Great Garden Gnome Massacre
* Long Exposure Light Photos – (Gorgeous!)
* Doctors To University: Fire That ‘Quack’ Dr. Oz
* Defeating Polio: The Disease That Paralyzed America
* Anne Lamott Shares All That She Knows: ‘Everyone Is Screwed Up, Broken, Clingy And Scared’
* MLB Teams Boost Mental Health Support Systems
* Love Is Not Supposed To Hurt… Then Why?
* New Study Says Tylenol Numbs Emotions – (Rushes to weekly grocery list…)
* 7 Things To Do When Your Kid Points Out Someone’s Differences – (Great stuff!)
* Hidden Cameras Reveal Airport Workers Stealing From Luggage – (Why are people so sorry?)
* Yogi Berra, Ready For The Game!
* Mindfulness Meditation Can Help Relieve Anxiety And Depression
* What Self-Love Means: 20+ Ways To Be Good To Yourself
* Anne Lamott – Becoming The Person You’re Supposed To Be: Where To Start
* How To Get To Know Yourself In 5 Fool-Proof Steps
* Baddest Mother Ever: Ten Signs I’ve Found The Right Biscuit Joint – (Link of the week!)
* A Boy and Her Dog: Owning My Shame – (I feel so much of this.)
* Fisticuffs And Shenanigans: Pride, You Made Me Proud
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“You can only go halfway into the darkest forest; then you’re coming out the other side.”
— Chinese proverb
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Links of the Week – February 6, 2015
* 21 Of The Universe’s Greatest Unsolved Mysteries
* 10 Reasons Christian Heaven Would Actually Be Hell
* The Super Bowl Was A Win For Feminism
* PostSecret: Gyrating – (Me too.)
* Bakerella: Groundhog Day Cupcakes – (Adorable!)
* Cats Are Looking For Love Online
* Julia: The…Ambivalent Samaritan
* The Fire On The 57 Bus In Oakland
* The Pioneer Woman: Knock You Naked Brownies
* The Pioneer Woman: Queso Fundido – (Lawdy mercy!)
* Brace Yourselves For The Andrew Jones MLB Comeback Story You’ve Always Wanted
* Man Brings Lunch From Home To Cut Down On Small Joys
* Pain And Suffering At Life’s End Getting Worse Not Better
* Why Cambodians Never Get ‘Depressed’ – (“the water in my heart has fallen”)
* Bitch Hoodie – (To wear to all my church committee meetings…)
* Scribbles & Crumbs: We’re All Messy People
* “Inspiration Porn Is Not OK”: Disability Activists Are Not Impressed With Feel-Good Super Bowl Ads
* delicious days: Green Onion Pancakes
* Serious Eats: How to Make Salted Dulce de Leche Brownies – (Here it comes!)
* The Gold Lining Girl: Buckeye Graham Crackers
* Woman Has Few Enough Friends To Consider Confiding In Sister
* Study Links Binge-Watching TV To Depression
* Sometimes I Feel Like Things Would Be Better Off If I Never Existed
* “Good” Children – At What Cost? The Secret Cost Of Shame
* Shame: The Disowned Part Of Self
* O Shame, Where Is Thy Secret Source?
* A Womanonymous: Day 1, part III – (She’s telling my life here.)
* A Womanonymous: Day 3, Three – Signals and voices – (And here too…)
* Self-Injurers And Their Common Personality Traits
* Some People Shouldn’t Be Allowed To Say The Grace When It’s Time To Eat – (Hysterical!)
* Hawks Starting Five Named NBA “Player” Of The Month
* 13 Habits Of Exceptionally Likeable People – (Uh. I think I do less than half of these. Maybe I’m not as likeable as I thought.)
Molestation: The Questions That Linger
Peeling back one layer and healing it exposes the next. As we go deeper, a girl may say, ‘You know, I’ve never told anyone about this because I was too embarrassed (or because it didn’t seem important… she was afraid… she didn’t think anyone would believe her… or she thought it was her fault). But I think you should know.’
If these traumas are mentioned at all early on in counseling, it’s typically in conjunction with, ‘But that was years ago and I’m over it now.’ The hidden message behind this tough talk is often, ‘ I have spent a lot of energy and time trying to numb myself from feelings and to forget anything associated with this painful event. I would rather not talk about it. I choose to ignore these painful emotions rather than confront them, because I’m fairly certain I wouldn’t survive those overwhelming feelings.'”
– The White Umbrella, Mary Frances Bowley, pp. 84-85
I still ask myself…
– Why didn’t anybody in my family believe his previous accusers and keep it from happening to me?
– Am I making it a bigger deal than I really should?
– Why did it never occur to me to tell?
– If I had told would it have protected his other victims?
– What kind of monster would DO these things to children year after year?
– I know there are things about the molestation I don’t remember. What are they? What if they’re horrific?
– Why didn’t I stop him?
– Is this the cause of so many of my insecurities and self-doubt and self-loathing, or do I just use it as an excuse to feel sorry for myself?
– Is it the reason I have so many problems in relationships, or do I just use it as an excuse to cover up my shortcomings?
– Why do I still get so anxious – heart pounding, short of breath – when I think about it?
– What would the resolution to this even be or look like in my life?
– Do I have to forgive?
– Do I have to stop being angry?
– Isn’t it easier, less painful and less self-destructive to just keep repressing it and numbing it, to not pick at that scab?
A Long Run 
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